Each one of the Vows we have heard of already is unique in their own way. They contain a part of the Bride or the Groom, a secret by the Wedding couple or a Promise to each other that they will try to accomplish through thick and thin.
And usually, the Bride and the Groom have searched high and low to make that perfect speech. We bet all of them poured their hearts out, more often than not smiling while reminiscing a good moment and crying on a trial which they have overcome.
And so we thought, to help Bride- and Groom-To-Be’s with their wedding speeches, we have listed some tips they can bear in their mind while doing so.
Tip #1 Get Clearance. It is always important to ask the Celebrant or the Ceremony Official if reciting your own personal Vows is allowed. There are some houses of worship or ceremony official requires for the Bride and Groom to recite specific wedding vows. And if some do allow reciting of personal vows, there are some that want to review what you have written.
Tip #2 Start Early & Stay Committed. It is always important to do everything earlier than later. This saves more time for revision and changes. It is also important that both the Bride and the Groom are committed on doing the personal vows. The Guests usually feel the tone and feelings the Vows are imparting when they are told out load.
Tip #3 Create an Outline & Find your Voice. Just like what we learn in school, making an outline usually helps us establish a pattern and structure. This is the same with making vows. It tends to make the story of the vow more personal when done. It is also important to note how you are going to deliver the vow. Do you want it to be light & humorous or mushy & Poetic? It all depends on you as long as everything comes from your heart.
Tip #4 Key Questions. Key Questions are important because it provides insights which are unique in your vows. So think of key questions, write it down on a piece of paper or jot it down on your computer. Some questions you can put in your list are:
- When and where did you meet?
- What do you love most about him?
- What does marrying her mean to you?
Tip #5 Memories. Moments shared with your loved ones are always good to share. It makes the guests feel the love you are feeling for each other through these memories. Places you went to, key milestones on your relationships including the hard ships you both overcome as a couple.
Tip #6 Promises. Saying your promises is usually the last part of the vow. After sharing with the guests how the relationship starts and your fondest memories, it is always good to end with a promise. Saying your promise of unending love and devotion and how you will keep each other safe is always nice to hear.
Tip #7 Be yourself and Practice out loud. Remember, you are making a wedding vow. A vow you would be saying to your bride/groom. So remember to be yourself. Forget the crowd and remember you are sharing the moment with your loved one. Also, it takes out the jitters of speaking to a crowd when you practice saying your vows out loud.
We hope this tips helps you write your wedding vows.